her (mum, girlfriend, entrepreneur, dreamer, manifestor)

Hi. I'm Clare

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I didn't set out to build a map for consciousness.

I was just trying to find my way home.

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For most of my life, I lived with depression. After having my second child, I experienced postnatal depression that seemed to arrive from nowhere. From the outside, life looked good. We had security, comfort and love.

But internally, something wasn't right.

For years, I looked outside myself for the thing that would finally make me feel better. I searched, learned, tried, fixed, improved and looked for answers everywhere I could.

And then something unexpected happened.

The more I looked outside myself, the more I was eventually led back within.

It began with a single Reiki session.

I remember being held in a moment when I desperately needed it, and having an incredibly strong inner knowing that everything was going to be okay.

The message was simple:

The answers are in you. Look within.

Something shifted.

It changed the way I looked at myself, my life and the world around me.

What followed was a deep exploration of meditation, energy, frequency, spirituality, consciousness, psychology, manifestation and the many traditions and teachers that have helped me make sense of being human.

Some things resonated deeply.

Some things didn't.

And some things I had to question.

Because awakening isn't always the peaceful, beautifully lit journey that Instagram makes it look like.

Sometimes it's confusing and messy.

Sometimes it's uncomfortable.

Sometimes you realise that you've simply replaced one set of beliefs with another.

And sometimes you have to unlearn what you thought awakening was supposed to look like.

Then came Bali.

My partner and I eventually made the extraordinary decision to sell our life in the UK and move our family thousands of miles to Bali.

We didn't have everything figured out.

Far from it.

We followed an inner knowing before we fully understood where it was leading us.

Living this way has taught me something I keep coming back to:

You don't necessarily find yourself by becoming someone new.

Sometimes you find yourself by stripping away the things that were never really yours.

The beliefs.

The fear.

The identities.

The expectations.

The stories.

The constant search for something outside yourself that will finally make you whole.

And somewhere in all of that, Be Nothing Like began to change.

From healing to remembering.

I used to think the goal was to heal enough, learn enough, raise my vibration enough, become spiritual enough.

Now I see things differently.

Healing can be important. Understanding our past matters. Shadow work matters. Meditation matters. Energy can be fascinating to explore.

But none of these things are the destination.

You are not a project that needs completing.

The deeper question became:

Who are you beneath everything you've been taught to be?

That question sits at the heart of Be Nothing Like.

So I created a map.

Not because I have consciousness figured out.

I don't.

I'm still learning. Still questioning. Still having days where I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing.

But I've walked enough of this terrain to know how easy it is to get lost in it.

To endlessly search for the next healing modality.

The next course.

The next spiritual teacher.

The next frequency.

The next answer.

And sometimes what we need isn't another answer.

Sometimes we need a way to see where we are.

That's why I created the Conscious Evolution Map.

A way of exploring the human experience through:

Awareness → Healing → Shadow → Presence → Energy → Identity & Creation → Embodiment

With Remember at the centre.

It's not a staircase.

You don't graduate from one level and move onto the next.

You might arrive through meditation.
Or healing.
Or a question about your identity.
Or a difficult relationship.
Or a spiritual experience you can't explain.
Or simply the feeling that there must be more to life than the version you've been handed.

Start wherever you are.

Explore what calls you.

Take what you need.

And come back when life asks you to look again.

What I believe

I believe we're all shaped by things we didn't consciously choose.

Family.

Culture.

Education.

Trauma.

Relationships.

Religion.

Society.

Success.

Fear.

The stories we've been told about who we're supposed to be.

Be Nothing Like is an invitation to become conscious of those things — not so that you can spend the rest of your life fixing yourself, but so that you can begin to choose.

Choose what you believe.

Choose what you carry.

Choose what you release.

Choose who you are.

Choose how you live.

Because consciousness isn't just something we think about.

It's something we live.

And perhaps the whole journey isn't about becoming more.

Perhaps it's about remembering what was already there.

A little more about me

I'm a psychology graduate, a Reiki Level II practitioner, a lifelong explorer of consciousness and a mum of two.

I've always been fascinated by what sits beneath the surface of people and experience. I've experienced energy and intuitive awareness since I was young, and my own journey has taken me through meditation, Reiki, shadow work, manifestation, spiritual traditions, sound, frequency and a lot of questioning along the way.

I'm interested in the place where spirituality meets real life.

Not spirituality as an escape from being human.

Spirituality that helps us inhabit being human more fully.

I don't have all the answers.

I'm not here to tell you what to believe.

I'm here to share what I've explored, what I've learned, what I've questioned, what has helped me — and to invite you to explore your own experience.

Because ultimately, you are the one who gets to decide what is true for you.

That's what Be Nothing Like means to me.

Be nothing like what you've been taught to be.

And come home to yourself.

The truth of who you really are.